Being in relationship – with everything?
“In a real sense, all life is interrelated. All men are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly … I can never be what I ought to be, and you can never be what you ought to be, until I am what I ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.”
– Martin Luther King
The relationship with ourselves is the first relationship we are in; add another person, and we are in a relationship system, more than the sum of its parts, right? Social systems are about engaging in relationships, so we are all a part of many, whether in social systems at work, in our families, with our friends, or simply buying a coffee – in “an inescapable network of mutuality.”
In all relationship systems, we influence each other and the whole, and we are influenced by the whole. Relationship systems strongly impact the efficacy and ´thrivability´ for all, and always starting with “how I ought to be,” how we contribute.
Understanding that I impact others by simply existing made me determined to practice how I am being and doing ever more carefully, blind spots notwithstanding.
I am curious: What sits with you from being in relationship, and your contribution to them?