Being in relationship with RECEIVING, or fear of being judged
I have struggled with the concept of receiving … forever. Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin, reciprocity, exchange, balance. By being willing to receive, the good and the bad, being right, being wrong, receive criticism, judgement, ridicule, and more – is the antidote to fear of being judged?
I grew up with criticism as the norm, and became a very critical person myself. Criticizing everything and everyone as a strategy of masking vulnerability. This strategy caused me and others much harm. Luckily, there is a way out. Not saying I completely nailed it, but willing to practice until I do.
Here´s how I understand it:
The short version is being willing to receive everything that comes your way, realizing you have created what comes your way, and let it pass right through you. Easier said than done, but possible.
“Silvie, you are overly-sensitive, and you always over-react, get a grip!”
I go: “Cool, thanks!” and mean it. (OK, 1 out of 7 times).
That´s all, it´s just an opinion about me. Nothing else. Someone´s judgement of me holds no more power than I do. It´s my decision to choose who I give my power to, it is their opinion, or mine. Every time I buy into the lie, I make myself small, and cut off an element of my receiving.
So, in the effort to try to not receive judgments, we construct solid walls around us energetically, that keeps everything out, creating separation from life, from our world, and especially your ability to receive. The brick walls we put up to try to avoid judgement, eliminate our receiving. This creates all kinds of lack, money problems, bad relationships, unfulfillment, possibilities, success, and more.
So a different possibility is receiving judgment willingly. The response “Cool, thanks” lower your walls, your barriers, allowing the judgement to flow through. This creates space, possibilities, allowing those who judge to have their point of view, because that´s all it is, a point of view.
Consider what freedom that would give you, to finally be willing to receive all? The beauty of it is, that when you do, you start to get this level of potency, in your world around you – and you start recognizing that nothing can stop you, nothing can limit you, nothing can slow you down unless you align and agree with it, or resist and react to it.
One of the greatest gift you can give yourself is the willingness to receive judgement and just let it on through.
“Cool. Thanks!” Do you want to practice receiving everything with me?
This is principle is based on the teachings of Dr.Dain Heer, of Access Consciousness, his Tour of Consciousness series.