Being in relationship with: success – or is that fear of success?

All my posts are about choosing to be in engaged relationship – with everyone, everything & show up, to relate consciously, willing to let stuff get messy. Not easy! We´re human, we prefer comfort over conquering fear, me included. Yes, you heard a deep sigh.

In fact, one of my juicy relationships is with the fear of SUCCESS! There, I have said it publicly. I am afraid of success. Here´s the strange thing, I didn´t even know it! I thought I loved success! Nothing makes me happier than to witness someone achieving their targets, surpassing their limitations, expanding, creating more, better, fearlessly choosing creation over reaction, reaching others, creating value, being of great service. Hey, that´s the reason I get up in the morning, to serve life, and others so they can step on their road to fulfillment, greatness, joy, love, exuberance! But is that the whole truth though?

The catch is, my limiting belief that such success is not for me. Yes, that is my limiting belief speaking. It is not true of course, because success is for everyone who declares it! But boy, have I spent much time believing exactly that! 

Fear of success stems from doubting ourselves, avoiding any areas of responsibility that we may not, or will not succeed in. Introverted people (me, for one) are more likely to have this fear, preventing them from setting targets in fear of failing (keeping us small), or fear of what others will think (dare to be you), and beyond. 

Fear of success for me is fear of being visible (deep breath), speaking my truth, taking up space, claiming a seat, because I have something valuable to offer life. The synthesis of having overcome my limitations, willing to do what it takes. But what if it ´ doesn´t show yet? In all areas of life? I am choosing to overcome my fear of success. No matter what. You are my witnesses. I also have the privilege of defining what success looks like for me, and so do you.  (To be continued.)

What does fear of SUCCESS look like from your perspective?

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