“The only way that we can live is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” – C. JoyBell C.
What is a coaching relationship?
A coaching relationship is a safe, co-creative space focused on your agenda. We design our coaching alliance together in tandem, and this allows me to know how to be with you, and meet you where you are emotionally, mentally, or intellectually. This alliance provides for you to trust the process and let it unfold. Consequently, this co-active coaching process will nudge you forward and allow you to move beyond what does not serve you. Sometimes crossing an edge happens with a `zing´, sometimes with resistance; however only when you have enough information about how to live on the other side. The new you will start to emerge as you patiently learn to create new patterns.
More importantly, your role is to bring your agenda to the session, and willing to dig deep for clarity and allow the necessary changes to occur, to reach your short- and long-term goals. My role is to assist you in getting to where you want to go, and empower you along the way. Some processes take longer to explore and unfold than others. Learning to be patient with yourself while you move forward is of great value along the way, and having a coach witnessing you much support your success.
My coaching style is based on the training I received with CTI – The Coaches Training Institute’s co-active model. Co-Active means “at its most basic, co-active means simply ‘being in action . . . together’. Or perhaps ‘being together. . . in action.” The first relationship you are in, is you in relationship with yourself, the second are you in relationship with the other.
(I am also trained in Relationship Systems Coaching, originally built on the Co-Active model. This is coaching modality is about coaching more than two people in relationship systems, privately or in an organization.)
I coach in English or Norwegian, in person (when allowed), or online. One session can be great, and a start or a taste of what coaching can do. Several sessions will deepen your learning and keep you committed to holding yourself accountable towards your goals. It all depends on where you are and where you want to go. As the saying goes: ´commitment is sticking to your plan long after the mood you said it in, has left you.´ Are you committed? Book a free 30-min chat to find out.
What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
A rule of thumb is that coaching focuses on excellence and reaching your goals, and is present and future-oriented. Coaching focuses on the resources in you. Therapy is focused on healing emotional trauma and deal with disruptive situations, and is more past and present-oriented; focused on dysfunction. Read more here
Finally, a well-known poem about our willingness to cross our edges or take that leap, in order to make the necessary changes. Are you ready to come to the edge?
“Come To The Edge
Come to the edge!
We might fall!
Come to the edge.
It´s too high!
COME TO THE EDGE
And they came,
And he pushed,
And they flew!
– Christopher Logue