“The only way that we can live is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” – C. JoyBell C.
What is a coaching relationship?
A coaching relationship is a safe, co-creative space focused on your agenda. We design our coaching alliance together in tandem, and this allows me to learn how to be with you; meet you where you are emotionally, mentally, and intellectually. This alliance provides a baseline for you to trust the process and allow its unfolding. Consequently, this co-active coaching process will nudge you forward and let you to move beyond what does not serve you by working with your edges.
Sometimes crossing an edge happens with a `zing´, sometimes with resistance; and only when you have enough information about how to `live´ on the other side of that edge, will new knowledge grace your life. A more resourced version of you will start to emerge as you experience what the other side of the edge feels like.
More importantly, your role is of course to bring your agenda to the sessions, and be willing to dig deep for clarity, to allow the necessary insights to occur, and changes to be made. My role is to assist you in getting to where you want to go, and empower you along the way. Some processes take longer to explore and unfold than others. Learning to be patient with yourself while you move forward is of great value, and having a coach witnessing and mirroring you supports your way evolution.
My coaching style is based on the training I received with CTI – The Coaches Training Institute’s Co-Active model. I quote “At its most basic, Co-Active means simply ‘being in action . . . together’. Or perhaps ‘being together. . . in action.” The first relationship you have, is with yourself, the second is you in relationship with the other. Then there is the relationship systems we all are members of.
I am also trained in Organization- and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC), which is built on, and evolved from, the Co-Active model. The ORSC-modality is about coaching more than two people, in relationship systems; such as familys, teams, and groups, either privately, or in an organization.
I coach in English or Norwegian, in person (when allowed), or online. One session is a great start, and or a taste of what coaching can bring. Several sessions may deepen your learning and provide more commitment to holding yourself accountable towards your goals. It all depends on where you are and where you want to go.
As the saying goes: ´commitment is sticking to your plan long after the mood you said it in, has left you.´ And we all know that one well. If this resonates, book a free 30-min chat to find out more. I look forward to discovering who you are.
What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
A rule of thumb is that coaching focuses on quality and reaching your goals. Coaching is focused on the present and the future. Coaching focuses on revealing the resources in you to yourself, or to the relationship system in question. Therapy must be focused on healing emotional trauma and deal with disruptive situations, and is more past- and present-oriented; focused on dysfunction. Read more here
Finally, an edge-poem about our willingness to cross our edges by taking that leap, in order to make the necessary change. How does it sound to you?
” Come To The Edge
Come to the edge!
We might fall!
Come to the edge.
It´s too high!
COME TO THE EDGE
And they came,
And he pushed,
And they flew!
– Christopher Logue